tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post8448414636222387739..comments2023-10-22T06:10:21.465-07:00Comments on OCPD - Scattered Thoughts <br>from the Front Lines: Boundary Betty - Not Quite Ready For Prime TimeThe Writing Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14577032840574632179noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-9844213497201934212010-12-03T22:22:37.848-08:002010-12-03T22:22:37.848-08:00Any woman raised in the 1950's is a people ple...Any woman raised in the 1950's is a people pleaser or a reformed people pleaser. It was a communist plot that we were all brainwashed in that particular way.<br /><br />When I began dating, this is the advice I received from my parents:<br /><br />Mom: Ask the boy lots of questions about himself. It will make him feel important and keep the conversation moving.<br /><br />Dad: Order the cheapest thing on the menu - you don't want to look like a greedy gold digger.<br /><br />Thanks, Lois and Pete - I just realized why I'm so screwed up.<br /><br />Boundary issues? I have a few. Most of them around men and my bosses at work. Unhealthy, can't say no, too eager to be a people-pleasing-pleb. I make myself sick - really.<br /><br />Friendships - not so much. I've given this a bit of thought and I think it's because about 20 years ago, I started choosing my friends more carefully. I knew from trial and error who the emotional, blood sucking vampires were and I didn't "friend" them anymore.<br /><br />Of course, I don't have sex with my friends (really) and so it's easier to make healthy choices. <br /><br />I'm working on this weakness... truly.Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-2797833768267846872010-10-18T19:23:55.584-07:002010-10-18T19:23:55.584-07:00I haven't taken the test myself, strapped for ...I haven't taken the test myself, strapped for time, but I must say the observations and insights are very real to me. I have a very hard time keeping boundaries in place when they pertain to people I love, often to my own detriment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com