tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post860804643184297544..comments2023-10-22T06:10:21.465-07:00Comments on OCPD - Scattered Thoughts <br>from the Front Lines: Wolf Woman or Hungry Hungry Hippo?The Writing Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14577032840574632179noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-81038416259375369312011-02-22T21:16:30.860-08:002011-02-22T21:16:30.860-08:00@Thalia - I'll have to check her out. Part of...@Thalia - I'll have to check her out. Part of me suspects you may be right - I should just learn to love being a big girl - and part of me is still wailing, no, no, this is NOT your natural size. Guess I'll have to see, as I move along this journey.The Writing Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14577032840574632179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-46579294949398073702011-02-22T14:22:02.657-08:002011-02-22T14:22:02.657-08:00Well, hmmm. I suppose I should just be up front a...Well, hmmm. I suppose I should just be up front about it and state right out that I'm a radical feminist who's been hanging out with the fat acceptance activist-types for some time. So I have a number of beliefs that I do honestly believe are facts, even though they go against all 'common wisdom.'<br /><br />First thing is that diets don't work. Period. The weight always comes back. It is simply the way bodies work. In fact, I'm convinced that the surest way to <i>gain</i> weight in the long run is to diet, since it permanently alters your metabolism and body. Because seriously, if you aren't taking in enough food to maintain your weight? You are by definition <i>starving,</i> and so of course your body pulls out all the stops. Because it's survival. Your body doesn't know you're doing it on purpose. <br /><br />Second thing is that exercise isn't going to really work for weight loss either. In fact I'd say the bottom line is that there is no way to lose weight permanently. Which isn't to say that eating well and exercising appropriately aren't good for the body, quite good in fact—just that they don't work for weight loss. Because nothing really does. And that calories-in, calories-out stuff? Yeah, not so much. I mean we all know that skinny guy-friend who eats like a horse but never gains an ounce, right? It works the other way, too.<br /><br />So I would say, while knowing just how stupidly huge a job this is in this fucked-up society, is to just take weight-loss off the table. Because by all realistic measures it's just not going to happen, and thinking that it can, if you just do the exact right thing, will just make you crazy. <br /><br />I keep recommending the Fat Nutritionist; her sidebar alone with all the links to studies is worth a visit. There are also all the archives to Shapely Prose, though the site itself it now closed; though fair warning they are unapologetically feminist and might not be everyone's cup of tea. Also, google 'obesity paradox', just for fun. That one was a real eye-opener for me and convinced me that my body really does know best, even if this culture hates me for being 'fat'.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09948272740932982138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-21064002818248148902011-02-21T07:29:41.150-08:002011-02-21T07:29:41.150-08:00@Sid - thanks, and that article was great - gonna ...@Sid - thanks, and that article was great - gonna re-read it again. Wednesday will be fun!<br /><br />@Harcore - *workin'* on feeling comfortable in my own skin. Broccoli doesn't create the same prob for me as for you, and I only eat the raw stuff (as opposed to nuking it in the microwave) so my co-workers don't hate me on that account.<br /><br />@ Anon2 - I will have to check out vision boards, and thinking of a good mantra. I'm willing to try anything (except another DIET!)The Writing Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14577032840574632179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-27911716878150366812011-02-20T19:33:25.820-08:002011-02-20T19:33:25.820-08:00I can relate to what you are saying. I have a con...I can relate to what you are saying. I have a constant battle between my head and my heart. The head always seems stronger ~ but in reality....the heart really is. I know that is hard to believe! I struggle to believe it every day. I have disordered eating and extremely disordered thoughts around eating. What my head says and what my heart knows RARELY agrees...but I am fighting hard to "love the skin I am in". Every single day is a battle. <br /><br />Something I did was create a vision board (google it...they are great!) Okay, I will admit I thought it was stupid at first, but once I came around to it I realized that it would help me stay focussed and on track. I also created a mantra for myself (once again something I did not believe in at first!) ~ mine is...I am a strong intelligent woman who is not measured by a number. (I am very scale obsessed). <br /><br />I also found in the past that joining a group activity helped. You had others to rely on and to help keep you committed. <br /><br />Take one moment...breathe...give yourself a moment to look how far you have come....how strong you are!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-51050668112106292772011-02-20T13:56:14.437-08:002011-02-20T13:56:14.437-08:00broccoli .Don't do too much of it thinks of th...broccoli .Don't do too much of it thinks of the others at work.I get terrible wind with it.<br /><br />The best way to lose weight is lots of excercise and then you can eat a bit more.The hard part is finding something that suits you. A sport is better, then you get the social benefits after. <br />Due to a medical condition i have to keep my weight down so its also about looking after you as well.Or maybe God doesn't like you.Thats why he makes it so dammed hard for me to lose weight. Thats my crappy excuse and i am sticking to it.As long as you feel comfortable in your own skin thats all that matters, just like Sid said<br /><br />HarcoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5497129389773629007.post-60927201623929979872011-02-20T13:08:27.680-08:002011-02-20T13:08:27.680-08:00TWG, you are beautiful just the way you are. Just ...TWG, you are beautiful just the way you are. Just stay healthy.<br /><br />And this article I read on the Bloggess this morning may just help those voices STFU.<br /><br />http://tiny.cc/iyzt0<br /><br />This was a great, selfless post, no surprise. Thanks.<br /><br />I am so looking forward to Wednesday evening!Sidneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03927726425934945206noreply@blogger.com