Using writing, and meditation, and ice cream, and reading, and dreams,

and a whole lot of other tools to rediscover who I am,

after six years living with a man with OCPD.

Monday, April 2, 2012

A-Z: Borderline - Not Just a Tune You Can Dance To

People think "borderline" means part of this, part of that.  Perhaps the concept of borderline as being on the edge may be helpful in understanding Borderline Personality Disorder.

My A-Z theme is Issues related to Mental Health or Mental Illness.

Unfortunately, the real Borderline Personality Disorder doesn't come with choreography and cute hats.  It also goes beyond "being a little moody" or having PMS.

From NCBI, US National Library of Medicine:

People with BPD are often uncertain about their identity. As a result, their interests and values may change rapidly.
People with BPD also tend to see things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad. Their views of other people may change quickly. A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships.
Other symptoms of BPD include:
  • Fear of being abandoned
  • Feelings of emptiness and boredom
  • Frequent displays of inappropriate anger
  • Impulsiveness with money, substance abuse, sexual relationships, binge eating, or shoplifting
  • Intolerance of being alone
  • Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing

Borderline Personality Disorder AwarenessBorderline Personality Disorder Awareness (Photo credit: Gemma.E.Taylor)

While they offer support and resources to people dealing with all Personality Disorders, the excellent site Out of the Fog was initially created by partners of those suspected or diagnosed with Borderline PD.  (Note: the DSM-V, currently under review and due "out" in 2013, may be renaming this disorder as Emotional Regulation Disorder (ERD) or Emotional Dysregulation Disorder (EDD).)

Suggested treatment includes DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

As with any mental disorder, your mileage may vary.  For anyone in a relationship with a disordered person, getting help for yourself and keeping the lifeline open to family, friends, and other support is vital.

My A-Z theme is Issues related to Mental Health or Mental Illness.

Do you know someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Do you have any good tips for managing a relationship 
with such a person?  Your thoughts?
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